Safety
Every layer of Under Our Wing is designed to protect users — from the first question in screening to the last message in chat. Here's exactly how it works.
Most dating apps add safety as a report button. We built safety into every transition point — before a match is made, before photos are shown, before a message can be sent.
The screening conversation isn't only measuring compatibility. It's passively monitoring responses for language patterns associated with aggression, coercive control, entitlement, and criminal behavior. Profiles that trigger these signals are flagged before any match is ever surfaced.
Photos are locked. Messaging is locked. Neither opens until both parties actively choose to unlock the match. No unsolicited messages are possible by design — not suppressed by policy, impossible by architecture.
Once a conversation opens, AI safety monitoring runs passively in the background. Messages that include threatening language, harassment patterns, or coercive signals are flagged automatically. Users receive prompt notification and in-platform tools to act.
Every profile and conversation includes structured reporting tools. Blocks are immediate and silent. The in-app Wing companion is available to help users navigate uncomfortable situations or decide on next steps — without judgment.
The screening process runs two simultaneous analyses: compatibility scoring and safety monitoring. Safety monitoring is passive — users don't see it, but it's always running.
Patterns that suggest a belief that others owe them attention, responses, or access. Predictive indicator of pressure and boundary violations.
Language suggesting a history of controlling behavior in past relationships — monitoring, isolation, emotional manipulation framed as care.
Consistent attribution of past relationship failures entirely to others, combined with hostile language toward former partners.
Direct or indirect references to physical violence, threats, or menacing language. Profiles triggering this signal are flagged immediately for review.
Statements that suggest or imply criminal history related to violence, harassment, or abuse — whether framed as boast, confession, or offhand comment.
Language patterns consistent with predatory targeting — escalating intimacy rapidly, testing limits, or expressing interest in vulnerability as an opportunity.
On most dating platforms, sending a message requires only your own decision. Under Our Wing requires two decisions. Both parties must actively unlock a match before photos become visible and conversation opens.
If you unlock and they haven't, you see a pending state. No notification is sent to them — no pressure, no awareness that you acted first.
If they unlock and you haven't, same thing. Silence until you're ready.
When both unlock, the connection opens simultaneously. Equal ground. This single constraint eliminates the power asymmetry that makes most dating app inboxes unsafe for many users.
The AI monitoring system runs passively on all conversations. If it detects a safety signal, a sequence of escalating responses activates — starting with user notification and ending with account action if the behavior continues.
The AI scans for threatening language, harassment patterns, sexual coercion, and escalating aggression in real time. Detection is automatic — you don't need to be watching for it.
When a safety signal is detected, the affected user receives an in-app notification with context about what was flagged and a direct path to block, report, or dismiss.
Blocking is immediate and silent. The blocked user receives no notification. Reporting submits a structured record for platform review — the reporter's identity is never disclosed to the reported user.
The Wing AI companion is available throughout the app. If something feels off but you're not sure how to name it, Wing can help you think through what happened and decide what to do — without judgment and without escalating unless you want to.
Multiple safety flags on a single account trigger escalating review. Confirmed violations result in suspension. Verified serious violations result in permanent removal.
We will never share your screening responses with other users or third parties. Your psychological profile exists only to power your matches.
We will never notify someone that you blocked them. Blocks are silent and permanent from the blocked user's perspective.
We will always respond to safety reports. Every submitted report is reviewed by a human within 24 hours. If you're in immediate danger, contact local emergency services — no app can substitute for that.
We will improve these systems continuously. AI safety detection is not perfect. When our systems miss something, we want to know. Use the in-app feedback tool or email safety@under-our-wing.polsia.app to report a gap.
Join a platform where your safety isn't an afterthought — it's the first thing we built.
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